People often talk about working mums as if we’re constantly thinking about home while we’re at work and constantly thinking about work while we’re at home.

For me, that’s not really how it works.

I have ADHD, and one thing that comes with that is a lovely little thing called object permanence.

When I’m at work, I’m focused on work.

When I’m at home, I’m focused on home.

The problem isn’t carrying both worlds at the same time.

The problem is switching between them.

Sometimes it feels like Work Tracy and Home Tracy are two completely different people.

And getting from one to the other isn’t always as simple as walking through the front door.

The Transition Nobody Talks About

One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I need time to transition.

If I’ve just finished work, I can’t immediately deal with twenty questions, five problems, and a list of things that need doing.

Not because I don’t care.

Because my brain hasn’t caught up yet.

I need five minutes.

Just five minutes.

Time to get changed.

Time to sit quietly.

Time to mentally close one chapter before opening another.

Without that reset, everything feels too loud, too fast, and too overwhelming.

It’s usually during those moments that I can feel the ADHD rage starting to bubble up.

Not because anyone has done anything wrong.

Because my brain hasn’t had chance to switch gears.

Work Is Work and Home Is Home

I’ve never been someone who enjoys bringing work home.

In fact, I hate it.

When my work day is finished, I want it finished.

I don’t particularly enjoy talking about work all evening unless something genuinely unusual has happened.

I like having boundaries between those parts of my life.

Work is work.

Home is home.

Keeping them separate helps me cope.

I know some people blend everything together, but I’ve learned that doesn’t work well for me.

The One Thing That Does Follow Me Home

There is one exception.

Simply Sasha.

The website comes home with me.

Not because I have to work on it.

Because I want to.

And sometimes that creates its own kind of guilt.

After a full day at work, being a wife, a mum, and keeping life running, there are moments when I wonder if I should be spending that time doing something else.

But then I remember why I started.

I want to help other women with ADHD.

Especially those who are at the beginning of their journey.

The ones who are still learning that they’re not lazy, broken, or failing.

The ones who are starting to understand how their brains actually work.

If something I write helps even one person feel less alone, then it matters.

The Dream Isn’t More Success

If I’m honest, my dream isn’t to work more.

It’s actually the opposite.

I would love to eventually reduce my hours and spend more time at home.

More time with my family.

More time doing the things I enjoy.

More time living life instead of constantly fitting life around work.

That’s not because I dislike working.

It’s because I value time.

And time is something we never get back.

Quality Time Matters More Than Quantity

One thing I’ve become more confident about over the years is this:

Quality time matters.

Of course I’d love more hours with the people I love.

Most working parents would.

But I’ve learned that being fully present often matters more than simply being physically there.

I make the most of weekends.

Family days.

The little moments.

The conversations.

The laughs.

The time we spend together.

Because those are the things people remember.

Not how many hours were available.

But how those hours felt.

Final Thoughts

Being a working mum can sometimes feel like a constant balancing act.

Not because we’re failing.

Because we’re trying to do a lot.

We’re providing for our families.

Supporting our families.

Looking after our families.

And somewhere in the middle of all that, we’re trying to look after ourselves too.

Some days the balance is easier than others.

Some days it’s messy.

But most of us are doing far better than we give ourselves credit for.

And sometimes, all we really need is five minutes to switch from one version of ourselves to the next.

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